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Discussion Topic: All alone.
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04-11-2005 @ 10:52 AM |
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hi
if you would like to work on your social situation, try toastmasters, it sounds weird, but from my experience, it quite non-threatening and very moderate in its developmental pace. It has a very specific format and thus you have an opportunity to speak and be heard
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04-11-2005 @ 2:39 AM |
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Joegirl
I read your post and found it very sad. I guess when we are given a life sentence, we do not argue anymore, we try help others and hold onto what we have.
I was told I would die but still here today, it really makes me think, with all of the problems I have and still do - I have to say, I am lucky to be alive.
Depressed as we may feel, there is help if others listen to us.
I own two support groups, one for an illness I have called Essential Tremor - ET and other tremor disorders. Another one for Depression, I let the others make it a family place for themselves, of all ages.
Cheers - Gaylene - Tasmania - Australia
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04-10-2005 @ 7:34 PM |
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I feel the same Cra-Z, I feel like I have no friends or family to be with, no emotional support, except for my husband. He is always there, but nobody else. I guess I should be grateful, but when depression takes a hold on me because of outside circumstances, or things beyond our ability to control, I feel ugly outside, because I am obese from medications etc. People talk about me too, I also try to put on a smile, and when they ask me I say I am so so..but really I'd like to tell some people off. They don't care if I feel bad or not, because most people are only interested in themselves. What a rotten world. Everybody who responded has to have some lousy things that happened to them over a prolonged period of time. I won't go into any more details, but I've been through many of the things other people have said too.
I keep thinking maybe I need stronger meds, I don't know what to do.
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04-10-2005 @ 1:53 PM |
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i can relate. im too just got divorced 6 months ago from a 35 years of marrige. i moved 1500 miles away from the only family that i have ( 3 chilren ). here i know no one . i just stay in my apt. until the lonelyness take hold of me then i went to casino and stay there until all the money is gone then i went home and cry.
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| ladyblue42 |
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04-10-2005 @ 10:58 AM |
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Hey there,
I don't mean to be flippant but that's what psychiatrists and psychologists do! If you've seen one thing through this message board it's that many, many people have the same kind of feelings as you do. I think the dread of getting therapy is so much greater than what happens when you finally go.
You have a place in this world and just as much right to be here and to feel good as anyone else. Believe me, I know, there are days when I think I could disappear from the face of the earth and there would not even be a ripple. But those feelings are coming from the disease of depression. They aren't me. It's human nature to want to survive. Depression pushes that instinct away and lures us into thinking about giving up. Please don't give up.
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04-09-2005 @ 11:51 PM |
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Thanks everyone... for understanding. I've read all the posts everyone left. And I am very surprised by the response I had gotten and how similar you all felt. Life for me is a bad day that happens everyday. I keep waking up thinking that the day is going to be better and come home at night praying for an end. Yes, I pray too for an end. I feel like I'm being punished for something. For being ugly, for not being a good person,... for being me.
I come from a messed up family. I have tried to find help by talking to my doctor but they look at me like I just want to draw attention to myself. I've called for a psychiatrist appointment, but cancelled them all. I'm scared.. who wants to go into a doctors office and say that they don't want to live that they have a problem with themselves?
It's getting bad because I can't look people in the eye, I can't concentrate, I don't even remember my kids birthdays and how old they are sometimes...
I feel so angry and sad at myself for everything. I just want to be normal and be able to think without losing myself.
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| Tammie |
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04-09-2005 @ 1:49 PM |
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TextTextI also feel totally alone. I left my alcoholic abusive husband 5 years ago. I came to a town 70 miles away from the only family I have( 1 Sister) and my best friend. They never come to see me and I have made few friends here and only one comes to see me once and a while. I lost my job 1 year ago and can't find it in me to go get another. I would like to move to where I am closer to my best friend but I am stuck here due to my lease. I am not even quite sure I can rely on her , she basically ignores me now. My sister just got married 6 months ago and doesn't seem to want to be bothered either. I have no car so I am at their mercy when I want to see them. I just am having trouble coping with being alone. I loved my job and was happy when I was working but why can't I get off my butt and get another job. I feel stuck in my house most of the time. Any suggestions would be VERY helpful. Thanks
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04-09-2005 @ 12:05 AM |
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hello. i read your story and it really made me think. I am only 25yrs old and recently experienced having to go to a doctor and put myself "out there" and discuss how i was feeling to a total stranger(the doctor). I of course had a discussion with my husband first, but i realized that the only thing that can truely help is admitting there is a problem and seeking help for it. I was so scared to talk to someone and tell them what was going on, i thought they would judge me or even decide i had something wrong with me. I thought that because i'm so young they'd think i was making it up or being dramatic about my feelings and what i'm going through. But once i realized that no one can help me but myself, even a doctor can't help unless you let them, i quickly realized that i need to face my fears, admit i have a problem and try to figure out how to fix it, for me and my family's sake. So,anyway i hope you find the courage to get help and get better for yourself and your loving family. thank you for listening
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04-08-2005 @ 10:23 AM |
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Thank you for the sympathy Joe girl I appreciate it. To answer your question No I have not seen a doctor. I go to a family clinic in a hospital that now has changed my doctor three times in the past 5 yrs. So I really don’t feel comfortable speaking face to face with someone that I don’t really know.
This media is different it seems like it can be a release but I am not face to face. I really believe that I could be a bit bi polar. If I go to work I feel really high all day until I come home then I crash and I crash hard. My mind is continually racing all the time and especially when I go to bed. I operate mostly on about 3-5 hours sleep per day. I get extremely irritable and I get angry very quickly. I can only handle a half day at work and my boss gets upset with me when I leave.
I guess I should make an appointment to see someone but who to see and how do I go about asking for help from someone I don’t know?
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| joegirl |
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04-07-2005 @ 3:13 PM |
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Frenchy,
Sounds like you need a shoulder to lean on my friend. Listen, believe me it could be alot worse. Just to give you a little background: I lost my mother when I was 10 (we beleive that my father had something to do with her death), my father had sexual relations with my sister and half-sister (not with me and I thought there was something wrong with me because it did not happen), I was married when I was 19, had two boys, my husband died when my oldest was three and the youngest was one. I did not get any help from anyone because, like you, I do not have any family. A couple years later I lived common-law with an older fellow and he died a year after that with AIDS. You guessed it, he passed it along to me. So now, 15 years later, I still am a single mom infected with HIV. Yes, it is a lonely existance but I have to hang in there for my boys and you do too. You have a wife and kids that love you; be thankful for that. Are seeing a doctor at all? Anytime you need to talk just let me know, I will listen and give you my opinion. Sometimes when you talk about things, it makes it a little better. Take care of yourself and I will talk to you later.
Joegirl
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04-07-2005 @ 2:44 PM |
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I can relate. I am 43 and I have been living alone for the past 39 years. I am married and have two kids that are 20 & 21 but still feel alone. You see my parents abandoned me when I was 4 yr old. I don’t have any sibs or friends that I can really count on. The holidays are a tremendously hard time for me and this year has been the worst.
My wife prays every night for me. I pray every night that my life ends before the next morning. I wake up having an extremely bad sleep and start the day all over again. At night I wish for the same thing death.
I have been feeling so sad that I can’t even go to work or be with people. 2 years ago during the Christmas holidays I had a plan to finish my life in my car in the garage but my wife and kids stayed home instead of visiting her parents. I have been looking for another opportunity to continue my plan but have found no time to complete it. My wife is an extremely needy person and has always looked to me as her pillar. Little does she know that I am a pillar that has a cracked foundation and is about to come tumbling down.
I have been taking St John’s wort but find that it’s not really helping me. I have such highs and lows these days. Is there a correct dosage to take? Sometimes I just think I can’t take this pain any more.
Anyways everyone have a better day then me please.
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04-05-2005 @ 1:54 PM |
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I with you guys as well! Feel very, very alone all the time. Cry for absolutely no reason at all sometimes. I feel for my kid - he seems to be the only one to have to deal with me and it's not fair to him. I just wish I could be the happy-go-lucky person I used to be; just don't know how to get there. I'm scared to death about what's going to happen when my son goes away to school (and that's a year and a half away).
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04-05-2005 @ 12:11 AM |
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I really get what you're talking about. I'm 45 and I'm getting real tired of feeling this way. I just seem to go through the motions and of course the people in my life can't understand. I just found this site 20 minutes ago and hope that It will at least help me get through the really rough times like what I'm going through now. These are the times when I look at all options to change my life and because of this @#$@# I don't see a way out. I'm very, very tired, but glad I found the arena to vent. I'm thinking of you whoever you are and want you to know that if it helps, you're not alone
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04-03-2005 @ 6:23 PM |
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Hi Cra-Z,
As ladyblue42 wisely advised, help is available, please contact your doctor. Sometimes it is helpful just to be able to discuss how you are feeling.
Also, remember that when you are feeling alone, support is available here on the site from members who truly understand what it is like to experience these symptoms.
Please let us know how you are doing.
Casey
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The Depression Center Support Team
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| ladyblue42 |
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04-03-2005 @ 5:54 PM |
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I'm so sorry that you're having such a hard time. It can be very hard when you have no one to talk to. You can always post a message for me on the message board and I will answer as soon as I can.
Have you been diagnosed? Are you in treatment? If not, and if you can, you might want to find out if there's a physical reason for how you feel. There is help out there, it can just take a while to find it.
Try not to be so hard on yourself. Everybody has good things to share, it's just very hard to see them sometimes.
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